Week 9's Coaching Call

Due to the holiday and other work and family obligations, I was feeling rushed in this week's call, so I hope I was somewhat understood. I think clarity has been a regular theme in my postings.
I talked with Marc about an experience I had with a co-worker I felt was overbearing and controlling. She had literally taken over a meeting last week, and I was annoyed, to say the least. This week's assignment gave me the opportunity to move on from my Judgemental Listening to Listening from Outside the Primacy of Parts.

Looking at the picture on our assignment, I could feel myself being that dot, moving from the inside to the outside. After listening, just listening, it became very clear that we share many of the same concerns, ideas, and worries about changes at work. Her response to these events is to stand up and take charge. Mine is the polar opposite. Being able to take a few minutes to understand that she could not sit quietly any more than I could stand up and take the microphone, alleviated my anger. She is not her point of view, anymore than she is her response to a very stressful situation.

Easter Sunday Session

This week, Chinrinee did not let me down, and had another fascinating week of events to share. She has begun taking a class called, "Speech and Drama", and a lot of its content is similar to this Dialogue class. She talked about moving, and how we all need to, "let go" to let something happen. Another part of the class is taking on a role, to be someone that you have never been. Chinrinee explained that this can be especially difficult, because Thai people are for the most part, very shy. One man stood up, said he could not do it, and just quit. The Teacher has taught drama for many years, so it is likely that he will be a great teacher for this class.

Chinrinee then talked to me about the importance of letting things go, to organize and priortize, as a means to get to know your true character, and to gain a new perspective. She shared a story about a woman who had chronic neck pain, so severe she couldn't enjoy much of life. Chinrinee explained to her friend that the pain was caused by her not being able to forgive her husband, and not letting go of her anger. After her friend was able to meditate on what was being said, she was able to forgive, and the pain went away.
Very good stories, and I will, (as always) look forward to next week's call.